There is a growing trend in couples calling ‘time’ on their relationships.  I was shocked to read recently that couples are breaking up after 20 or 30 years of being together!  One major reason is alcohol abuse.  I know what I am talking about, as I have personal experience of the trauma experienced by the whole family because one member did not seek to stop alcohol abuse.

Could you be the reason a relationship has broken down or is in serious trouble because your alcohol abuse has badly affected your loved ones by your actions?

It’s possible you are blaming everyone and everything for the dire state of your relationship.  Alcoholics don’t tend to accept that they are the problem.

It’s usual that the other partner or family member is covering up what you are doing to yourself, to the outside world.  If they have not challenged you to stop alcohol abuse or dependancy, then you have to take steps to break this destructive habit.

While in a sober state and clear headed, think about what you are doing.  Acknowledge that you have an alcohol dependancy that is destroying your health and relationships.  That your partner and/or family members are being scarred by your actions, and that you are willing to change.

It’s possible you won’t be able to stop alcohol abuse immediately, even if you wanted to.  You should seek professional help.  Check out ‘Alcohol abuse/dependency’ on the internet.  There are many sites that provide good quality information, where you will learn more about your problem and its effects on others.

Visit your GP and they will inform you what help is available to you.  Make an appointment with AA or other similar organisation or group.  You will find relevant information in local newspapers, yellow pages or the internet.  Talk over your problems with a trusted friend or family member.  Someone who is nonjudgemental and a good listener.

The important point is that you can be cured, but only if you come to terms with the fact that you have a problem and want to stop.  It will be a long, difficult journey but you won’t be alone.  Hopefully, your partner and family are still there to help and support you.