Have you made your New Year resolution yet? If you are struggling to find something to give up (because it’s not good for you) or are thinking of taking up something that will benefit your well-being, but are still undecided, then why not consider a New Year relationship resolution. This could do wonders for the relationship between you and your partner.
One recent poll conducted in North America, placed spending more time with family and friends as the No. 1 New Year resolution.
In making a New Year relationship resolution specifically for my wife and children, I acknowledge that I could, and should, have made the effort in the past twelve months to be a better partner and parent.
We all could do a lot more to enrich our relationships and so creating a better relationship environment.
Improve communication. When there is a lack of effective communication, misunderstandings arise, we become insular and a constant negative atmosphere takes over the relationship.
Your resolution doesn’t have to be achieved quickly. Take small steps over a period of time, say a month or two. Give more of your time each week to conversing with your partner. Ask them what kind of year they would like to see. Have they made a resolution? Are there mutual goals they want to work on? For example, saving for a longed for vacation or going into business together.
Working towards a mutual goal is great for relationships that may just be going through the motions and could do with freshening up. This can also test the resolve and character of either partner if they come across barriers and end up back at the beginning.
We all seek happiness in our lives and being in a harmonious relationship will usually require some effort from both of you to reach that stage where whatever life throws at you, the good, bad and ugly, at least the relationship flourishes.
Most people’s resolutions get abandoned within 3 months because either what is required to achieve the desired outcome is just too hard or there is a loss of interest and the New Year resolution is forgotten about.
Don’t let this happen to you. Make your New Year relationship resolution one that you enjoy taking part in. Reward yourself when you reach a particular milestone by maybe going to a restaurant with your partner. Just do something enjoyable together that you don’t normally do.
Remember when your relationship was so important to you it was your life? Complacency/indifference and the stresses and strains of modern living may have buried it to the back of your mind.
Make your New Year relationship resolution achievable by a bit of planning and commitment. You may then just realize just how relevant and essential your relationship still is in your life.
I agree so much that working together on mutual goals is great for your relationship. The past few years my husband and I worked on creating and sticking to a budget. It sounds incredibly boring I know, but when we met our goals together it felt great. It also has the added benefit of eliminating money arguments. I have many personal goals that less measurable and more subjective, so I always like to have at least a few goals that can be clearly measured.
Of course these days, most of our mutual goals are centered around surviving raising teenagers while maintaining most of our sanity LOL.
Wishing you and your family a wonderful 2011!
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Hi Raymond, this is a great idea. It also gives people the opportunity to talk about their relationships and voice their hopes for the future of those relationships. Good luck for 2011.
Enjoy the journey.
Mandy
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