Would you know how your partner wants to be loved? More to the point, when was the last time you cared? Are you taking your partner for granted. In the early stages of a relationship there is so much effort put in by both of you in order to impress and get to know each other. The brain chemicals take over and work their magic and you both might end up saying “I think I’m falling in love.”
You put a lot of effort into the new relationship. You are consumed with getting to know all you can about your partner. Nothing is too much trouble in your quest to please them. You find it easy to forgive their flaws and irritations, as they do of you. It’s a very intense blissful time as you both explore each other.
As time moves on and those early days of the relationship are a distant memory, maybe you have grown complacent, your partner isn’t the same person you first met, and life and your relationship have settled into a predictable routine, It happens to most couples. Would you know now how your partner wants to be loved now? You might now shrug your shoulders with a look of wide-eyed puzzlement. Think about it how long has it been since concerned yourself with your partner’s wants and needs. They could be desperate for you to show some affection, an acknowledgment that you still care about them.
For many relationships there is unspoken conflict, which could be dealt with if you were still communicating with one another. Maybe you want sex with your partner, and they don’t, this causes you real frustration. They wish you didn’t fly into an immediate rage, and you can’t understand why they refuse you. If you had taken the trouble to find out, the reasons for lack of sex could have nothing to do with you.
when was the last time you really listened to your partner? Was it when you both first met? When both of you couldn’t stop talking for hours? How times have changed.
Relationships are complicated. Every couples’ relationship is unique. With unique expectations of what would make them happy and content living with their partner. There are though basic conduct that should be observed in all relationships, regardless of cultural and religious beliefs, in order for love to flourish.
- Mutual respect and understanding – when you have that ingredient in a relationship you are more than half way to knowing how your partner wants to be loved.
- Selflessness – you should not attempt to manipulate and control your partner. When you do that you have a relationship based on intimidation.
- Take care of your partner – “In sickness and in health”, your partner means the same to you when they look and feel good as when when they look and feel terrible, consigned to a sick bed.
- Communication – interaction with your partner. You talk, and listen attentively. You might not agree with them at times, but your respect their point of view. Your sex life issues could then have been openly discussed leaving you feeling better because you got to the root of the problem.
Arguments happen in the best of relationships, that’s life. Reactions are usually spontaneous, without thought, which can escalate into conflict from the most trivial of reasons. showing your partner that you love them is saying sorry and meaning it. By buying a small inexpensive gift by way of an apology can mean so much. Again it’s an acknowledgment that your partner is valued and loved.
What love is, and knowing how your partner wants to be loved can be achieved by the simple act of ‘giving‘. Giving your time to listen, about how their day went, or their hopes and dreams. Making time to help out when needed, and giving your partner attention and appreciation. Devoting yourself to your partner, as your priority, and less so to yourself. The predictable routine of your life and relationship then might just take on a new revitalized direction. You never know, you just might restart that brain chemical voodoo stuff! Wouldn’t that be worth something?
Do you have an unresponsive partner, do you feel unloved ? Please add your comment.