I have just finished watching one of my favorite Christmas movies ‘A Christmas Carol’. Ebeneezer Scrooge in being shown the error of his ways, ultimately finding happiness and contentment in his life by helping people much less fortunate than himself.
If you look at your relationship, there must be something you can do that shows your partner that you care about them. You could also benefit by feeling better about yourself as well as your relationship.
‘Giving’ in a relationship doesn’t have to entail money or gifts to make a positive impression on your partner.
How can you ‘give’ your time to your relationship if you spend all your spare time doing things that only interest you? It’s obviously good for a relationship that either partner are free to pursue their own interests and hobbies. If though, you are obsessive and so shut your partner out, you are possibly perceived as selfish and remote. This then would be a great opportunity for you to change.
Put yourself in your partner’s position, what is it like being ignored and isolated by you? At times we could all do with stepping back from our relationship and looking at ourselves from our partner’s perspective.
You could ‘give’ your partner space within the relationship to thrive as an individual. Do you consider that your relationship is one of equals or do you treat it as a device for your own benefit? Your partner could be frustrated and miserable, feeling they, and their opinions count for very little.
When you consciously make a decision to include your partner as an equal within the relationship, with their own voice, you are giving your partner the opportunity to ‘breathe’ again and enjoy being a genuine part of the relationship again. Just as it used to be when you both first dated. They were exciting times that you can recreate, if only a small part, which would be so much appreciated by your partner.
So, I hope you make a simple decision that going into the New Year you will make a difference to the way your partner sees you and the relationship. It will cost you nothing, but will go a long way to re-establishing the loving relationship you both once committed yourselves to.
Have a great Christmas!