This was a question posted on a relationship advice forum recently. What was interesting was that many people who submitted a comment replied that they too felt that, at times, they wondered if they would ever find someone right for them. Stop that kind of thinking immediately! The whole marriage/relationship world has changed over the past 20 or 30 years. We are living longer, useful, healthier lives and even if your relationship fails in your late 30′s, there is still so much opportunity for you to find someone and enjoy a long, successful relationship. The out-dated stigma of being ‘on the shelf’ from your late thirties is now irrelevant and obsolete. Women in their late thirties do get upset at passing child rearing age but should also try and come to terms with that situation and move on. Fortunately, men are able to father children at a much older age, it’s not fair but that’s life.
Starting a new career or relationship in your late thirties is happening for millions of people. Rid yourself of those emerging negative viewpoints and get on with your life. Are you putting yourself out there, or just moaning that you won’t find someone at your age? So let’s check out my
Definition of a Soulmate taken from various sources. A person with whom you have an immediate, deep, almost telepathic connection with. This builds over time when either partner can even finish each other’s sentences, and also knows what each other is thinking. Soulmates will compliment each other perfectly.
Is it realistic that you will find someone who will affect you that way? It’s doubtful, so why hold out for those almost impossible dreams? My relationship with my wife certainly did not start out with love at first sight, although you do hear of those occasions when it truly is love at first sight. We loved, we argued, we were also discovering each other. Now, more than 20 years later, I truly do feel that we are much closer, and understand each other more deeply, mainly because we have been together for so long. We are part of an equal, caring relationship, built on mutual respect and trust. I don’t use the word, but I would call us soulmates!
Find someone who you are compatible with. They certainly don’t have to be a soulmate or perfect or ‘the one’. As long as you make each other happy and share the same hopes and dreams. A deep soulmate connection can develop over time.
Unfortunately, many people today don’t wish to work on a relationship and give it time to grow. There are relationships that break up over the most trivial of reasons. Maybe we are more selfish today and if things, or our relationship are not where we feel comfortable with, then instead of working out our problems by effective communication it feels so much easier and with considerably less drama to just walk away from the relationship.
In conclusion, instead of worrying that you may be too old, whether you will ever find your soulmate, write down what characteristics in a mate you feel you would settle for. Plot you preconceived notions at the back of your mind and then maybe join a local singles club that holds various events throughout the year. These do cost, but are well regarded. Or join a free, and a paid, online dating site and explore your options and what site you feel most comfortable with.
Many people find their eventual partners at work or at an evening class. With a little creative effort you will come up with many possibilities. Always try and maintain a positive outlook and persona, people are naturally attracted to those who appear confident. At 38 years old, the world of love and relationships still has much to offer you. Grab it with both hands. Who knows what will happen next!
