I’ve been trawling around the relationship forums checking out women’s biggest complaints about men. Truth is, there are so many I could probably write an eBook on this very emotive subject!
I doubt many men visit relationship forums when on the internet, but they just might be shocked at some of the vernom women are spitting out in the comments section of those forums! So, let’s jump right in.
1, Men don’t understand women. Men just don’t try hard enough. We men are seen as uncaring of their wife’s, partner’s, girlfriend’s feelings, wants and needs.
I guess that’s partially true! Men don’t have these issues with each other, there is this male ‘understanding’ of each other that women don’t get. Our brains are wired differently and so we should accept our differences and work round them.
2, Lack of communication. We men are, apparently, so wrapped up in ourselves we ignore our women. Men don’t realise women need emotional support. After all we don’t usually provide support to each other. Unless there is a desparate situation that needs resolving, so why should women expect it!
Communication is a grey area generally for men, and so yes, we should make more effort, especially within our relationships (read ‘Effective Communication Within A Relationship’ in a previous post).
Women complain frequently that they feel lonely within a relationship and their opinions don’t count for much. Men generally expect their own space within a relationship to do what interests them, playing golf, going down the pub, watching TV. They should make a conscious effort and make time to include their long-suffering partner in decision making and sharing interests together.
3, Men do not help out. This is a problem that goes back forever and spans different cultures!
In a marriage it used to be that the husband was the wage earner and the wife stayed at home, cooked the meals, cleaned the house, washed and ironed the clothes, etc, etc, etc.
It was considered enough that the husband went out to work and he would not be expected to do any of the household duties. If there was any DIY work, he would attempt to do it, bring someone in, or dismiss it for sometime in the future!
In the present day, economics dictate that the husband and wife both go out to work and so you would expect that home duties burden is shared out on a more equitable basis. A lot of men try harder and do more work around the house, plus helping with infants, children’s homework, school pick ups, etc.
I’m the first to admit that my wife does, and will probably always do, a lot more work around the house. It will take a few more generations, and then some, before a couple have a truly balanced relationship where everything is shared equally!
PS In the interest of equality, my next post will be about 3 of the biggest complaints men have about women!