Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) is a form of psychotherapy, used not only to treat many disorders such as anxiety and panic attacks, but also relationship problems.

CBT involves a therapist identifying and changing the way negative thoughts, feelings and behaviors can affect relationships.  In dealing   with ‘here and now’ thoughts and behaviors, CBT differs from other therapeutic treatments, which involve examining past life events to understand present emotional states.

The therapist will implement strategies through counseling, after identifying problem areas for improvement.  For example, trust, intimacy, communication, understanding, forgiveness, expressed affection, and acceptance.

A CBT therapist will conduct a series of tests with a couple to determine the course of treatment required.  Which will usually include techniques the couple should practice at home.

Many therapists will often draw up a martial contract.Each partner will be encouraged to negotiate time and resources to home/life areas such as hour chores, finances, physical intimacy, shared time together, sharing child-rearing duties and recreation time.  This helps couples identify where problems with their relationship is centred. There should, of course, be a desire and commitment by the couple to work together to change their ways.

In uncovering negative thinking/misunderstandings due to poor communication skills and behavior., the therapist can help the couple to a greater appreciation and understanding of where and why they were going wrong.  In this respect CBT has been able to make a difference in improving human relationships.

If you are not comfortable visiting a therapist, there are self help books that can help you.  Amazon is a very good site, with many titles, or click here to learn more about this increasingly popular form of therapy in dealing with relationship issues.