I’ve been there and bought the t shirt!  Years ago I couldn’t commit to a relationship until I was absolutely sure it was what I wanted.  Back in those days, going into a committed relationship could also mean getting engaged, marriage and children.  The thought of babies scared me to death.  Many men find it difficult committing themselves to a relationship because of the responsibility involved in having to be faithful to one person.  This, they say they would do, sometime in the future, after they have sown their ‘wild oats’.  Commitment also means sacrificing their freedom.  Some had been in relationships where they had made an effort in committing with their partner, but were then ‘dumped’, and so are wary of commitment again.

These days, couples tend to marry in their late twenties rather than late teens, or early twenties of thirty years ago.

There is hardly any social pressure to get married today.  Sex on demand used to be a big motivator, whereas in these enlightened times, sex is expected when couples begin dating.

There are steps you can take to convince your partner that they should consider committing to you.

Take Commitment Out Of The Equation

If you are alienating your partner by bringing up the subject, then stop.  Instead, concentrate on building the relationship, be genuine.  Most of us tend to fabricate a certain persona to impress the person we are attracted to.  This tactic backfires on us once we revert to our real personalities when we enter into a commitment.  So try and be your natural self, your partner will appreciate your honesty.

What Is Their Fear?

Find out what scares them about committing to a relationship.  Work on removing those concerns.  You could reassure them that commitment does not mean being handcuffed, as long as they behave responsibly, they will still enjoy their own ‘space’ within a relationship.

Show You Are Committed

Show interest in their life and what they enjoy, or are passionate about.  For example, you don’t have to take up watching football on TV, or going to a football match.  You may be totally bored by it, but by showing respect for your partner’s interests and hobbies promotes the idea that you care, a definite plus!

If you are sure you want to commit to this person, then take small, positive steps to reach the ultimate goal of making it an easy decision for them to commit to you.